ABOUT
Our vision was to create an online respite from the constant striving pace of the world. A space to de-armour from the masculine-focused paradigms you´ve been taught to live from and recognize the intrinsic value and gifts of your deeper nature.
If you have found your way here, you are most likely a women with a sensitive and spiritual heart, longing and looking for a different way of living that allows you to reconnect with your deeper essence, wisdom and authentic voice so you can live, express and create in ways that fulfills and nurtures, not depletes, your heart, femininity, joy and essence.
So much of what I have witnessed through connecting with other women is that the sensitive woman often experience a subtle yet profound deeper feeling of not being good enough no matter what she does, and that her sense of value is directly connected with how much she performs and achieves.
This is a very unsettling feeling many women share and carry that leaves them in a constant loop of pushing, striving, chasing and forcing their ways through life, believing that is the right way. But what it often does is teach women to over-ride their true nature like their feminine qualities, gifts and attributes, diminish them or even abandon parts of themselves in order to live up to these external (often harsh and masculine) expectations.
This is deeply unfulfilling and damaging to the feminine soul who craves (and needs) genuine connection, naturalness, flow, creativity and to live with a rhythm that aligns with her heart and cycle, not against it.
CANDLES by DE ROSCHE is a space to de-armour from the distorted programmings of the masculine ways, a space to soften and embody the art of receiving what is meant for you from a place of inner trust, faith and value as a women of integrity instead of chasing and proving. A space where women like myself can find relief, and release the old and outdated ways of perceiving ourselves as something that needs approval and validation from others or that needs "fixing".
Here, you’ll find writings on gentle, slow and feminine-nourishing approaches to living together with our online scented candle boutique that offers beautifully hand poured scented candles made from only natural materials with a high performance in both quality and fragrance.
About the founder
I introduced myself to healing, spirituality and holistic living for the first time around 2018 when I had hit my rock bottom. I had found myself in a place where the way I was living and the way I was relating to and treating myself was no longer an option. To put it in short, I was completely lost in the masculine based programmings and expectations of the world where I would push myself far beyond what my heart and body could take, especially in work.
I actively chose to explore the healing community where I found a sense of broader openness, acceptance and understanding towards being an emotional, spiritual and sensitive person at heart, a sense I did not fully receive from the more traditional approaches to therapy that rarely touches upon the deeper and more intangible aspects of our perceived internal reality.
Learning deeper about the meaning of self healing, reading endless of books on self development and "doing the inner work", it slowly became clear to me that I was suffering from childhood traumas that I had never dealt with (or fully known I had). Growing up as a highly sensitive individual has it's challenges in a world that is so dominantly harsh and unnatural, add to that an emotionally absent mother who had no ability to connect with me or support my true needs.
This left me completely disconnected from myself and my intrinsic value and it turned me into the typical people pleaser.
Adapting myself to the harsh external expectations of the mascunilized world where I would strive, chase and prove my worth through endless doing, performing and achieving instead became my "protection", my safety and identity, but that in truth kept me from being the truly radiant, glowing and loving individual I was meant to be.
In 2022, I educated myself as a Soul Manifestation Coach and opened up my own practice where mainly women with similar sensitivities would seek out my guidance. This is where I understood how common these experiences are amongst women, not just my own personal journey.
As part of my own healing journey, creating and sharing it with others has been a huge contributor to my inner health and well-being. I have found tremendous comfort, strength and support through connecting with others like-hearted souls with similar experiences + some of them have played a significant role in my process of de-programming and releasing unresolved traumas to a point where I have found my way back home to my heart and soul.